The Dating Game

Hello friends. Today’s post is a little selfish, and also personal. I am a single father, and I want to date. The problem is I do not know how too successfully. These are the facts, 50% of my week is spent working two jobs that utterly can not stand or am paid enough for, and the rest of my time is spent looking for work in the field that I actually received my MBA in; Marketing, or contemplating / researching getting another degree in education since I’m already a substitute teacher and I feel like I’m missing something; “Raising a little woman”. As you can see that leaves very little time to pursue dating and looking for a significant other. Many people have told me that I should put aside that notion and focus specifically on raising my beautiful daughter and making her the best woman she can be. I say that is in the words of my grandparent hog wash. When I go into an interview I inform the interviewer that one of my skill sets is the ability to multi-task, handle a plethora of responsibilities and deliver on measurable goals. Well the measurable goal in this instance is to have a family. I am being honest. I can not be the best person or father if my entire day is spent going to work, then coming home and parenting. Don’t get me wrong I love parenting, but there has to be more. Quick example, today I left one of my jobs went to the gym worked out for over an hour picked my baby up from her grandparents and felt rejuvenated. Human beings need to release that energy, enjoy some free time “R&R”. The problem is where I squeeze it in. I am your typical monogamous dater, I find someone I like and I assume she is attracted to me and after a period of going through the feeling out stage I determine that she is match, and then I focus like a missile on making that relationship work. After crashing and burning on several attempts I decided to try a different method. Just date, go out on as many dates as possible with as many woman as possible. There are a few negatives in that option; 1) I HAVE NO DAMN TIME!- I have one maybe two day a week in which after handling business I have a couple of hours of free time. You can’t date randomly on that schedule. 2) Secondly I have never been a juggler. I’m just not good at it, some how some way I end of doing something dumb as hell. Example, you will not receive I plead the fifth. 3) And lastly but more important, only three women have ever actually had the pleasure of meeting my baby. One of them, the encounter happened so long ago she doesn’t remember the second girl was one of my best friends so the transition was seamless. And the last, well I thought I was done looking, but that’s a whole other ball of wax. Bottom line is I’m screwed. So lately I tell women about my situation early. I thought it was best to inform them now so if they decide to run, whatever! I have been informed that I should hold off on doing that until maybe we actually know each other. Who knew! I need help America, or very close friends and former classmates who take the time out to read my little blog. Boog wants to date. But not just for me though. I had the pleasure of have two parents, so while I am aware that I have insecurities, and am flawed. I am still well adjusted, that is because what my mom missed my father picked up the slack on. I would like that help, there is stuff that I just will not understand, if I have some one close too assist that would be nice. So if you have any suggestions help a brother out, and follow the blog people it’s lonely and needs you company! Essence of Fatherhood